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You’re at work and you get the phone call.  The voice on the other end of the line says, “I’m here waiting on you.  Where are you”?  Your jaw opens wide and your heart sinks to your stomach.  Not again you think.  Your child’s therapist is at your house and you are an hour and a half away at the hospital for a doctor’s appointment.  This is the second time you have done this to the same person.  Uh-oh. 

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Many people proudly say they are busy like it is a status symbol or badge of honor.  I used to say I was busy, but I had no idea what busy was until I had a child.  LOL!  Anyone else out there like that?  Let’s first talk about what busy actually means.  Busy according to Merriam-Webster means, engaged in action or full of activity.  Well, let me tell you, busy should not be a badge of honor.  Now, there is nothing wrong with living life to the fullest or anything, but you need to cut out the “busying” so you can have more room for the things that you truly enjoy the most.  Like your family or catching up on self-care.

In this post, we are going to talk about why you need to spring clean your schedule, so you can make more room for the things that truly matter to you.

We will talk about how to focus on what matters, how to avoid burnout, how to feel more accomplished because you aren’t busying, why you need a little thing called white space, and how you really don’t “have to” do anything, it is a choice.

If that sounds like something that interests you, well then, by all means, keep reading. ?

  1. Focus on what matters

Focus on what matters sounds so easy, but most people don’t do it.  They spend their time scrolling through social media and doing other things and busying.  You don’t realize how much time you do things like this and it will slowly eat up all of your available time.

Let’s do a little math here.  You have 24 hours in a day.  You need to sleep for at least 8 hours.  That leaves you with 16 more hours.  You work for about 8 hours a day and spend about an hour both ways on your commute.

That leaves you with 8 hours for getting ready for work, taking the kids to school/daycare, picking them up in the afternoon, doing chores, cooking dinner, etc.

So, you do have time, you just need to look at it and give it a good spring cleaning, so you can focus on what really matters.

Focusing on what matters is basically just another way of saying you are getting your priorities in order.

Prioritizing (one thing we talk about in the Tame your Schedule Workbook), has a ton of benefitsIt can reduce stress, increase productivity, help you avoid procrastination, and keeps you motivated.

Prioritizing helps you to know where you are going and helps you have a clearer focus.

  1. Avoid burnout

When you are so busy, you don’t have time to do anything.  You start letting things slip through the cracks.  Guess what the first thing to go for moms is?  You guessed it………. self-care.

Yep, we kick ourselves out first.  When we get so busy, that we can’t even make self-care a priority, then we have a problem.  This can help lead to burnout.

Burnout causes stress, chronic fatigue, impaired cognitive function (aka “mom brain”), increase illness, anxiety, depression, and anger.

Let me give an example from Rachel Hollis: imagine six soccer balls lined up in a row in the middle of the field.  You go up to each of the six soccer balls and kick them once.  Then imagine a second scenario where you just have one soccer ball in the middle of the field and you kick the one ball six times towards the goal.  Which example gets you farther down the field?  You guessed it.  The second scenario where you only have one soccer ball.

This proves that when you prioritize and focus you can get more accomplished than if you had a million things going on at one time (aka six soccer balls).

  1. Feel like you have accomplished more because you aren’t “busying”

When you aren’t engaging in “busyness”, you have way more time for other things.

When you have prioritized and know where you’re going and what you need to be doing to get there, then you have more room to accomplish the things that will actually get you there.

You aren’t running around like a mad woman.  You have focus.  You actually have time to do things and you aren’t reacting to everything.  You are being proactive instead of reactive.

  1. You need white space

First of all, what in the world is white space?  White space is breathing space.  White space gives you time to stop and breathe.  It gives you time to figure out where you want to go in life.

It’s as simple as that.  If you are always busying, then you are really living in maintenance mode.  When you are living in maintenance mode, you aren’t really growing.  You are just kinda existing.

You want to have time to create dreams and goals.  You want to have time to spontaneously take your kids to the movies on a Saturday afternoon.  White space gives you time to think about things like this.

  1. You don’t really “have to” do anything. Everything is a choice.

Most people get caught up in obligations.  Let me tell you one thing.  You DON’T have to do anything.  You ALWAYS have a choice.

Now, if you didn’t wash dishes, then you better plan on buying some paper plates if you wanna eat.  LOL!  But that still doesn’t change the fact that you do in fact have a choice.  You don’t have to feel obligated to do anything for anyone else or with anyone else either.

This is where the prioritizing comes into play.  When you get crystal clear about your priorities, you have a much easier time figuring out what to say yes to and what to say no to.  It really is that simple.

For example, my husband and I recently opened up a business.  We have spent the past month working our tails off to get it up and running.  We haven’t seen our kids as much as we would like.

Someone asked if the kids could spend the night and I immediately said no without hesitation.  There was no chatter.  I knew the answer immediately.

Because spending time with my family is a priority, and I knew I hadn’t seen my children as much as I like the past few weeks, it made it really easy to say no to the offer.

A few years ago, I would have felt obligated to say yes and then gotten mad about it.  THIS is one of the many benefits of spring cleaning your schedule and getting clear on your priorities.

Let me reassure you, that is okay to unschedule and spring clean your schedule.  Do not feel guilty.  It is YOUR life and you only have one of them.  You have to make the best of it.

It is your life and no one else’s.  You are in control of your time and schedule, so act like it.  Quit letting other people determine what your schedule looks like.

Stop letting other people’s priorities become your priorities.

Are you tired of feeling like you are too busy to breathe?  Are you tired of feeling like your schedule owns you?  Get the FREE Tame Your Schedule Workbook today and take back control of your time!  It’s free, so what do you have to lose? Sign-up below.

Does your schedule need a complete overhaul?  What is one thing you will unschedule first to make your life easier?  Let me know in the comments below.