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The benefit of self-care is a relaxed mom who feels fulfilled. You feel guilty because the children are getting on your nerves or wishing you were by yourself. When you take care of yourself, you can take better care of the ones you love. You have more patience and you are just able to just relax more. You don’t have to worry about feeling like you are wound up and stressed to the max.
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Here are some myths about self-care and why moms don’t practice self-care enough:
- I’m not that kinda girl.
- Ain’t nobody got time for that!
- It’s all about rewards and soothing yourself.
- It means you have to choose.
- I am way too tired for that.
- I’m not full of myself!
- Who needs that anyway?
- Have you seen my schedule?
If you want to dispel these myths, then keep reading. It isn’t too late to start self-care for yourself.
But first, let’s look at the true definition of self-care.
According to the dictionary, self-care means the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health OR the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
I’m not that kinda girl.
Self-care is NOT all about manicures and pedicures. Self-care is actually loving yourself and putting yourself first. It DOES NOT have to be manicures and pedicures. You can get manis and pedis though as a form of self-care if that is your jam, BUT it isn’t the only thing that is considered to be self-care.
Ain’t nobody got time for that!
Self-care does not have to take all day. I used to think self-care was manis, pedis, or an all-day spa day. NOT true by the way. Self-care improves your well-being and happiness. Manis, pedis, and spa days aren’t the only things that bring me happiness.
Self-care can be:
- waking up 10 minutes earlier than everyone else to get some quiet time
- taking a long shower and pampering yourself afterward with a face mask
- reading 15 minutes per day if reading is your jam
It doesn’t have to take up too much time.
Get the picture? It doesn’t have to take a lot of time. It just has to improve your well-being and happiness.
It’s all about rewards and soothing yourself.
Self-care is not a reward or anything that soothes you. I mean, you might want to sit down with a glass of wine or a slice of cheesecake, but that ISN’T self-care. That can actually be a coping mechanism.
Self-care isn’t a reward, it is a right.
It means you have to choose.
Self-care DOES NOT mean you have to choose between yourself and others. Quite the contrary actually. Because when you love yourself and take better care of yourself, you can take better care of others.
And good thing self-care doesn’t have to take a lot of time, it also means you don’t necessarily have to take a day’s vacation or several hours away from your family in order to practice self-care anyway.
I mean you can meditate for 10 minutes and that is self-care. It doesn’t mean you are being selfish, and it doesn’t mean it has to take all day.
Self-care isn’t the same for everyone. I like alone time and that is a form of self-care for me. But if you are a social butterfly, that may not be the case for you. You may hate the thought of going for a massage or meditating, but that might be right up someone else’s alley.
Self-care is tailored to fit you. I mean it is called SELF-care for a reason. Because it is for YOURSELF, NOT others.
It is whatever improves YOUR well-being and YOUR happiness. Your happiness may not be found the same way someone else finds happiness.
I am too tired for that!
Here we go again with the spa example. An all-day trip to the spa is not the ONLY form of self-care available to you.
Self-care can take 5 minutes a day. It doesn’t have to be a huge time commitment. It is actually better to start small anyway because then you will be more likely to follow through with it anyway.
I’m not full of myself.
Self-care is not narcissistic. It doesn’t mean you are full of yourself. Quite the opposite.
Don’t feel bad for taking part in self-care. In today’s society, it is like a fad to be a “hot mess mom” and if you aren’t a hot mess, then you must be full of yourself. It is absolutely ridiculous.
Just because you make self-care a priority, doesn’t mean you are narcissistic.
Who needs it anyway?
Self-care should be a necessity if you care about and love yourself. You should love yourself so you can love others better. You should treat yourself how you would want your daughter to treat herself.
Do you want her to act like a martyr and not partake in self-care? Would you want her to abandon herself to be a hot mess mom? Would you want her to put herself on the back-burner?
How do you want to show her how she should treat herself?
Have you seen my schedule?
You do have time. Let me repeat that, you DO have time. You get the same amount of time in a day as everyone else on this planet. 24 hours. You mean to tell me in 24 hours, you can’t find at least 10 minutes per day to yourself?
I don’t buy that. You need to MAKE time. Stop scrolling through Facebook. Stop vegging out in front of the TV. Stop doing one unproductive thing for 10 minutes a day and replace it with self-care. You do have time. You have time for what you make time for.
In conclusion, self-care doesn’t have to take a lot of time. It doesn’t have to be expensive or some elaborate drawn out process. It can be pretty simple really. It makes you a better person, wife, and mom. You can take better care of the ones you love when you take better care of yourself.
If you are tired of feeling guilty because you want some time to yourself or you think you are too busy for self-care, then get our Self-Care Workbook now for free. Learn how to tailor self-care to your busy life, because self-care shouldn’t be so hard.
What is preventing you from practicing self-care? Let me know in the comments below.