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You are so hard on yourself. It might be the Mommy shaming culture and all of the Judge Judy’s of the world. Everyone thinks they have a say in what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. It causes you to doubt yourself.
There are so many debates these days.
- Formula vs. breastfeeding.
- Working mom vs. Stay at home mom.
- Bed-sharing vs. crib.
- Cry it out vs. console.
There are so many choices and opinions. Today you’re going to stop doubting your mothering skills.
Here are 9 reasons to stop doubting your mothering skills:
1. Drop the perfectionism
You don’t need to strive to be perfect. Perfectionism isn’t attainable or sustainable. You spend all of your time and energy trying to be perfect instead of just living your life. Don’t beat yourself up for not being perfect. Just treat yourself with kindness and compassion.
2. Stop worrying what others think
You are good enough. You don’t need validation from others to decide your decision is a good one. You can just decide you made the right decision. When you worry about what other people think, it means you are doubting yourself. Just be strong in your decisions. You are your children’s mother and you know what’s best for them. You don’t need to crowdsource your answers. You don’t need to poll Facebook for opinions. You know what the right decision is without anyone else’s opinion.
3. Don’t let comparison steal your joy
Don’t let seeing other people and comparing yourselves to them steal your joy. Focus on you and your family. Everyone has a different journey. Practice gratitude and contentment for where you are on your journey. Enjoy all the little movements.
4. Ditch the Judge Judy’s
If you have someone in your life that won’t stop judging you, drop ‘em. You don’t need a bunch of negative Nellies in your life. They suck the joy out of every moment. Most of the time they are unhappy with their lives and just stuck in a negative cycle.
5. Don’t open yourself up to other people’s opinions
Don’t go into detail about your parental decisions or opinions around a close-minded person or opinionated person. They don’t need to know why you do what you do. Just keep the conversations short and sweet.
6. Know everyone’s just trying to figure it out
No one has it together and all figured out. You don’t have to have it figured out at first either. Just figure it out along the way.
7. Have realistic expectations
If you’re going somewhere during naptime, expect a meltdown. It doesn’t make you a bad mom. It doesn’t make your child a bad child. You can figure out a way to work around the situation. You can let your child start napping earlier. You can let them nap in the car with one parent while the other parent goes to the event. Don’t expect your child to be potty trained in a day. Don’t expect them to willingly give up their pacifier without crying. Don’t expect perfect.
8. Trust your intuition
Trust your Mama’s instinct. You know what’s best. You know what’s going on. Trust yourself. Don’t let anybody tell you any different.
9. It’s okay to say no
You can say no. you don’t have to say yes to every invitation you get. You can say no without any of the guilt and shame. It doesn’t make you a bad wife, mom, daughter, etc. You can just simply say no.
Here are some affirmations for you to improve your confidence and self-doubt about being a mother. They only work if you believe them or find evidence to support, they’re true. You can say these to yourself when you’re doubting yourself as a mother.
Affirmations for moms:
- I am a great mom.
- I’m doing a great job.
- I make good decisions for my children.
- I am always doing my best as a mother.
- I am a great mother.
- I am the perfect mom for my children.
- I love being a mom.
- Being a mom is a blessing.
- I was born to be their mother.
- I am doing an amazing job.
- I trust my mother’s intuition.
- My children don’t want a perfect mom, they want me.
- Asking for help doesn’t make me a failure.
- Everything always has a way of working out.
- I am enough.
- I was born to be a mother.
- I was chosen by God to be my children’s mother.
You are a great mother and you were meant to be your children’s mother. You know what you’re doing, and you don’t need anyone to tell you otherwise. Keep your chin up and realize how great you are and that you’re doing an amazing job. You aren’t perfect, and you aren’t meant to be. You are meant to be you. You are perfect just the way you are. You are already worthy. You were born 100% worthy. Your worth as a mom doesn’t come from your accomplishments or anything else. You are worthy 24/7.
If you want to take this work to the next level, check out our journal prompts for moms. They will help you be on your way to managing your mind. They will help you write out thoughts and realize what a great mother you already are. You don’t need to change to be worthy. You are already there. You can sign up for the journal prompts HERE.