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So, you have like a million things on your to-do list at all times. You feel pulled in every direction. You work, take care of your house, husband, children, and the dog. Not to mention any extracurricular stuff like church, hobbies, etc. You are so overwhelmed and you don’t know how to keep your head above water. How do you stop being overwhelmed?
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First, let’s take a look at why you are feeling overwhelmed.
Here are 5 reasons you may be feeling overwhelmed right now:
Boundaries. Hmm… You hear about boundaries, but you aren’t quite sure exactly what they are.
By definition, a boundary is a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.
Boundaries are VERY important. If you have poor boundaries, there is a big chance you feel overwhelmed A LOT!
Boundaries are your personal space. It is like having a fence around your backyard. That is a physical boundary. People know within the fence, it is your property. No questions about it.
Boundaries tell people how to treat you.
Here are a few signs that you may need to set better boundaries:
- Do you often feel taken advantage of or angry?
- Do you feel responsible for the unhappiness you’re feeling?
- Do you feel like you always have to defend yourself?
- Do you feel like it is “your job” to save the people in your life? (Ex: Bail someone out of a financial crisis? Babysit for your friend at the last minute every single time she asks?)
If any of these statements sound like you, then you need to set some better boundaries, my friend!
I am OBSESSED with the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud. If you don’t have time to read it, check out the audiobook and listen on the way to work. You won’t be sorry!! ?
Having unrealistic expectations is a big sign of being a perfectionist!! You set the bar sooooo high that no one can achieve it, including yourself!!
When you set unrealistic expectations, you are setting yourself up for failure. This can lead to anxiety and depression for failing to meet expectations.
Think about it this way…….
Do you think Michael Jordan was a great basketball player? I would say so, right!?!? Especially since he was inducted into the in the Basketball Hall of Fame.
Well, surely someone in the Basketball Hall of Fame is perfect, right??? WRONG!
Don’t get me wrong, he is the best basketball player of all time, but he wasn’t perfect.
In fact, he missed more than 9,000 shots in his career. That is A LOT of missed shots. However, that DOES NOT make him a bad basketball player.
Expecting to make every single shot would be an unrealistic expectation.
Your tank is empty
One reason of overwhelm is your tank is empty. You are running on fumes.
Are you getting enough sleep? Do you need to go on a date with your husband? Do you need to have some me time?
Are you getting your needs met? Schedule a date. Schedule some me time. Do whatever will help fill your tank back up.
You need to make sure your tank is filled up because it makes you a better person. All of the people who count on you need you in good shape. Don’t let your tank get empty.
Too much LITTLE stuff on your to-do list
How many things do you have on your to-do list? A lot if I can guess.
How much of your to-do list is just little things that don’t really matter? Take a long hard look at your to-do list and see if you can mark something off your list.
How do you know if something is a little thing? If you are so busy, you can’t think and you are in survival mode, then you do not need to have organize the garage on your to-do list.
If you have clean the baseboards in your house on your to-do list monthly and you are overwhelmed, mark that thing off your list!!
I mean, before I realized I had stupid petty stuff on my to-do list, it was filled with stuff like this. I am not saying cleaning out the garage or cleaning the baseboards isn’t important, but if you are going through a busy or a rough season of life, then you don’t need to worry about things like that.
You need to worry about taking care of your children, dating your husband, and taking care of yourself before those things.
You need to prioritize and worry about the RIGHT things, not petty things.
Trying to control the situation
Trying to control every single situation is tiring. And not needed!! You don’t need to control everything.
You don’t need to stand over your husband or children when they are folding the towels to make sure they’re doing it “right”. I mean, think about it this way, how many times has someone came over to your house and opened the bathroom cabinet and scolded you for folding the towels the wrong way?
Exactly, no one cares. Just let your husband and children fold the towels for crying out loud.
You don’t have to micromanage every aspect of your family’s life.
Not to mention, how would it feel if you were folding towels and someone was standing over you dictating and bossing you around about how you were folding them “wrong”?
Would you want to fold them again? Probably not. At least I wouldn’t. LOL!
Stop trying to control everything. The world isn’t going to come to an end because your towels aren’t facing the same direction.
Get a grip mama!
Stop wasting energy over stupid stuff like this so you can concentrate on the things that REALLY MATTER.
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